Life is not easy! No it’s not. Don’t try to make it that way.
Life is never fair to anyone in the present, it never was in the past and it will never be in the future. Try not to fall into the trap of the victim mentality. The entitlement trap that makes you feel like you are victim of your situations or your surroundings. Do not fall into that trap ever, You are not a victim period! You are to get on with it and get over with it.
Asking the right questions will always lead us to the right answers, so the question we need to ask ourselves is:
What is Success to us?
What is Success to you? Is it more money? That is fine. We should not be having anything against money. Maybe for you its a healthy family? A Happy Marriage? Maybe to be of help to others? To be famous? To be spiritually above others? To make the world a better place then what its now? Continue to ask yourself that question. Your answer may change over time and that is fine. But here is the thing whatever your answer maybe don’t choose anything that would jeopardize your soul!
Prioritize who you are and who you want to be. Don’t spend time with anything that would estrange you from your character. Be brave, move forward to your destination, but first answer that question. What’s success for me? In order to find our path we have to first define what’s success for ourselves, then we have to put in the work to maintain it, make the daily effort towards it, tend our pathways to it. Keep the things that are important to us in good shape and form. Where you are now is not important as where you are going to be if you do not want to take the First step.
Your Identity
Your identity in life would be your first step naturally, but its not. We know who we are, what we like, what we dislike, the first step is usually knowing what we are not! Defining ourselves by what we are not through the process of elimination helps to identify who we are.
The group of friends you regularly hang out with which never brings out the best in you, you know the group too much, you know all the good and bad about them. They are not the group that would be there when you needed them the most or how about the bar that you keep going every other day and get the worst hangovers the very next day that we can’t forget Or how about your phone screen that provides you the best excuse not to get out from your home and engage with the world and find some real human interaction Or is that tasty food that go through your body and makes you feel worse the next week, were we feel lethargic and keep putting on weight. We feel for those places, people, things… Stop giving them your time and energy. Just don’t go there! Put them down!
When you do put them down, when you quit going there. You inadvertently find yourself spending more in more places that are healthy for you, that bring you more joy why? Because you have eliminated the who’s, where’s, and what’s that are keeping you from your identity, too many options will keep you non focussed cut out your distractions decrease your options. Now you have time and what’s important for your life in front of you, the process of elimination does the job well.
Eliminate who you are not first
Knowing who we are is hard. It's also harder to give ourselves a break. Eliminate who you are not first and then you are going to find yourself, where you need to be. Instead of creating outcomes that takes from us, Let’s create more outcome that pays back in full. Keep your fire lit, turn you on for the most amount of time in your future. We try our best we don’t always do our best. Since we are our architect for our own lives, Let’s study the habits, the practice, the routines we have that lead to unfold our success. Our joy. Our Honest pain, our laughter, our earned tears. Let's dissect that and give thanks for those things and when we do that guess what happens. We get better at time and we have more to dissect. Be discerning, choose it, because you want it. Do it because you want it. Do it because you want it.
We are going to make mistakes, you got to own them. Then you gotta move on. Guilt and regret kills many a man before their time. So turn the page get off the ride. You are the author of the book of your life.
Inspired by Matthew McConaughey talks.
